Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment
Your guide to parenting a struggling teen, whether they’re home, transitioning home, or presently in treatment.
Parents, say goodbye to exhausting confusion, overwhelm and panic and the unhelpful patterns that keep you stuck. Learn how to develop healthy responses and set healthy boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety.
Experience the relationship-changing power of focusing on your own behavior instead of futile attempts to control your teen.
Your guides to Parenting Post-wilderness are Beth Hillman, a life coach for parents of struggling teens and mom to a post-wilderness teen, and part-time co-host Seth Gottlieb, a wilderness therapy guide turned teen and young adult recovery coach. Their unique combination of experience and training yields candid conversations chock full of practical, actionable tips and tools to smooth the challenges both parents and teens experience surrounding treatment.
Listen in to discover how parents like you have learned to influence equanimity in the home and rebuild connections with the teens they love.
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Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment
125. Strengthening Relationships Through Conflict
Sometimes the shame around my actions feels so heavy and I feel like I’ve failed as a parent. Sounds familiar? In this deeply personal episode, I open up about one of the most painful regrets I’ve had as a parent. A moment I carried shame around for years. It was a time when I was overwhelmed with emotions and lacked the tools I have now, leading to choices I’m not proud of.
At the time, I was convinced my struggling teen was doing everything “wrong” and my attempts to “fix” him only deepened the divide between us. Looking back, I realize that while his choices weren’t ideal, mine weren’t either. That realization was hard to face, but it set the stage for something even more powerful: repair.
“We can have a better, stronger relationship by having conflict and then repairing, than if there was never any conflict.” - Beth Hillman
Repairing the relationship with my son didn’t happen overnight. In fact, it took years. But through a meaningful conversation with him recently, I learned something profound: conflict doesn’t have to weaken a relationship. In fact, repairing after conflict can lead to a deeper, stronger bond than if the conflict had never occurred at all.
In this episode on strengthening relationships through conflict, I reflect on:
- The intense emotions that drove my actions and how I’ve worked to process and release the shame;
- How repairing with myself was a crucial first step before I could repair with my teen;
- The lessons my son and I learned about conflict, repair, and resilience through our journey.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve failed as a parent, this episode is a reminder that it’s never too late to repair, rebuild, and reconnect with your teen. It’s a process, and sometimes it takes time, but it’s always worth it.
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