Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment
Your guide to parenting a struggling teen or young-adult, whether they’re home, transitioning home, or presently in treatment.
Parents, say goodbye to exhausting confusion, overwhelm, panic and the unhelpful patterns that keep you and your family stuck. Learn how to develop healthy responses and set healthy boundaries with your teen instead of acting out of fear and anxiety.
Experience the relationship-changing power of focusing on your own behavior instead of futile attempts to control your teen.
Your guides to Parenting Post-wilderness are Beth Hillman, a life coach for parents of struggling teens and mom to a post-wilderness teen, and part-time co-host Seth Gottlieb, a wilderness therapy guide turned teen and young-adult recovery coach. Their unique combination of experience and training yields candid conversations chock full of practical, actionable tips and tools to smooth the challenges both parents and teens experience surrounding treatment.
Every week, you can expect conversations around:
- Parenting a struggling teen or young-adult;
- Setting healthy boundaries with your teen;
- Treatment options for your struggling teen or young adult;
- Bringing your kid home from treatment;
- Parenting skills to support your struggling child;
- Teen substance abuse, drug addiction, gaming addiction, suicidal ideation, or other teen mental health concerns;
- How to end power struggles and instead foster healthy communication with your teen or young-adult;
- And much more.
Listen in to discover how parents like you have learned to influence equanimity in the home and rebuild connections with the teens they love.
Connect with Beth on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or find more information about working with Beth at www.bethhillmancoaching.com.
Episodes
194 episodes
193. Is This ODD or Normal Teen Behavior? With Brittney King
Is your child pushing back, arguing over everything, ignoring rules, or seeming impossible to parent right now? It’s easy to wonder: Is this normal teen behavior… or something more serious like ODD?When conflict becomes the norm at home,...
192. When Your Teen Is Self-Harming: What Parents Need to Know With Courtney Deadman
When you find out your child is harming themselves, you’re thrown into a world you don’t understand.Fear hits first. Then confusion. Maybe even anger.Is this a cry for help? Is it manipulation? Is my child suicidal?And most of al...
191. The Boy Brain Explained: Why Your Teen Manipulates, Complains, and Plays the Victim
Your teen’s behavior might feel confusing, frustrating, or even manipulative… but when you understand the boy brain, it starts to make a lot more sense.In this episode, I sit down with Mark Spalding (LCSW) to unpack what’s really going o...
190. Dealing With the Negativity of Your Weekly Treatment Call
You wait all week for that call… and then it comes. But your child sounds miserable. They’re complaining about everything. The food, the people, the program. They tell you it’s not working. That they shouldn’t be there. Maybe they even promise ...
189. What Is in Your Control as a Parent? - The Circles of Control, Influence & Concern
You’re lying awake at night, running through every possible scenario. Should I step in? Should I say something? Should I let this go?When your teen is struggling, it can feel nearly impossible to know what’s actually yours to handle and ...
188. The Anatomy of Trust for Parents - A Breakdown of Brené Brown’s Work With Danny Frazer
Trust is one of the most fundamental parts of every relationship. If you don’t trust your teen, or you notice they don’t trust you, it will be hard to build the kind of parent-child relationship you want to have with your struggling teen or you...
187. The Mind F*ck of Tracking Your Adolescent’s Location on “Find My”
You check their location, just to make sure they’re okay. Then again. And again. And suddenly, your entire nervous system is tied to a blinking dot on a map.In this episode, Seth and I talk about something that so many parents are quietl...
186. Raising Boys: Video Games, Anxiety, and Raising Independent Young Men With Jarrod Hoffman
Is your son glued to his screen and telling you, “you just don’t get it”? But as a parent nowadays, you are navigating a world that looks very different from the one you grew up in. Video games double as social spaces. Screens shape friendships...
185. Learned Helplessness: When Helping Your Struggling Teen Is Actually Hurting Them
You step in because you love your child.You pay for treatment again because you’re scared.You cover the rent because you don’t want them on the street.You call to check in because something feels “off.”You offer solutions becaus...
184. Should You Just Let Your Teen Fail? Parenting Without Helicoptering or Micromanaging
You’ve heard me say it over and over again: You have to let go of what is out of your control. But does that mean you just stop parenting? Are you just supposed to sit back and watch your teen or young adult fail and make mistakes?When y...
183. Wilderness Therapy for Struggling Teens: What Open Sky Founder Danny Frazer Wants Parents to Know
The thought of wilderness therapy for your struggling kid can feel simultaneously hopeful and terrifying. Is it too extreme? Is it necessary? How do you even know? And how do you trust the people who would be caring for your child?In thi...
182. Letting Go of Expectations for Your Teen (and Trusting Their Process)
Every day, you’re watching your teen or young adult make choices you wouldn’t make, and feeling the constant pull to intervene. You see the risks. You imagine the consequences. And somewhere along the way, hope for progress turns into pressure ...
181. Understanding Self-Destructive Behaviors in Teens & Young Adults With Therapist Katie May
When your teen is engaging in self-destructive behaviors, what you usually see is the tip of the iceberg. You see the cutting, the substance use, the school refusal, the shutdowns or blowups, and it’s scary, confusing, and exhausting. ...
180. The False Hope of ‘Rock Bottom’ in Parenting a Struggling Teen or Young Adult
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “This has to be rock bottom… surely it can’t get worse than this,”? As painful as that thought is, it can also feel strangely comforting. Because if this is the worst of it… then maybe things will...
179. Feeling Like You’re Failing as a Parent? Welcome to the Club! With Jessica Stewart
You’re doing everything you can, and yet you feel like you’re failing as a parent… Believe me, you’re not alone, and today, I’d even like to offer you a change of perspective: What if you’ve been giving the wrong job description as a parent?
178. When a Child Dies by Suicide: What Parents Miss When We Only Focus on Behavior
Recently, we lost a dear friend to suicide. One of my son’s best friends, who had become a part of our family. This is a tender and deeply personal conversation in which Seth and I talk about the loss of a young man who mattered deeply to our f...
177. Learning to Let Go: A Mom’s Journey Through Her Daughter’s Substance Use, Self-Harm, And Suicidality Pre-Diagnosis [BPD] With Michelle Park
Learning to let go is one of the hardest but most necessary parts of parenting a struggling teen, especially when your child’s behaviors feel frightening, confusing, and completely out of your control.In this episode, I’m joined again by...
176. Teen Substance Abuse and Relapse: Grieving the Life You Thought They’d Have With Paul King
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175. Stuck in Repeating Patterns With Your Teen or Young Adult? Our #1 Parenting Advice
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174. Parenting a Teen With Borderline Personality Disorder With Mom Michelle
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173. Deciding Whether to Send Your Teen to Treatment (Again)
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172. Learning to Trust Yourself Again After Trauma and Conditioning, For Teens & Parents, with Jake Wood
What if the behaviors you see in your struggling teen aren’t just “problems,” but signs that the identity they were given no longer fits? What if their resistance, shut-down, or self-destructive choices are really the early stages of something ...
171. Rethinking Labels, Teen Drug Addiction, Shame, and the Soul with Jake Wood
Before your child has the chance to understand who they truly are, the world is already telling them what they are. Jake Wood knows this firsthand, and his story turns our whole conversation about teen drug addiction upside down.In one o...
170. How to Stop Negotiating With Your Teen, Break the “Just This Once” Pattern & Hold Boundaries
Does your teen always have one more promise, one more deal, or ‘just this once’ plea? You’re not imagining it. The moment you start negotiating with your teen, you’re pulled into a messy family dynamic that almost never works out the way you ho...
169. How to Express Emotions to Your Child in a Healthy Way with Therapist Dana VanRenterghem
You want to be honest with your child… but when emotions run high, it can be hard to know where the line is between healthy emotional expression and unintentionally putting a burden on your young child, teen, or young-adult kid.If you’ve...