Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment
Your guide to parenting a struggling teen or young-adult, whether they’re home, transitioning home, or presently in treatment.
Parents, say goodbye to exhausting confusion, overwhelm, panic and the unhelpful patterns that keep you and your family stuck. Learn how to develop healthy responses and set healthy boundaries with your teen instead of acting out of fear and anxiety.
Experience the relationship-changing power of focusing on your own behavior instead of futile attempts to control your teen.
Your guides to Parenting Post-wilderness are Beth Hillman, a life coach for parents of struggling teens and mom to a post-wilderness teen, and part-time co-host Seth Gottlieb, a wilderness therapy guide turned teen and young-adult recovery coach. Their unique combination of experience and training yields candid conversations chock full of practical, actionable tips and tools to smooth the challenges both parents and teens experience surrounding treatment.
Every week, you can expect conversations around:
- Parenting a struggling teen or young-adult;
- Setting healthy boundaries with your teen;
- Treatment options for your struggling teen or young adult;
- Bringing your kid home from treatment;
- Parenting skills to support your struggling child;
- Teen substance abuse, drug addiction, gaming addiction, suicidal ideation, or other teen mental health concerns;
- How to end power struggles and instead foster healthy communication with your teen or young-adult;
- And much more.
Listen in to discover how parents like you have learned to influence equanimity in the home and rebuild connections with the teens they love.
Connect with Beth on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or find more information about working with Beth at www.bethhillmancoaching.com.
Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment
202. Why Does My Teen Lie? Understanding the Behavior Behind the Lies
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Before your teen can tell the truth, they need to feel safe enough to do it.
When your child lies, it's easy to feel hurt, betrayed, or even disrespected. But what if their lying isn't about manipulating you at all? What if it's simply their brain's attempt to avoid pain, shame, or consequences?
In this episode, Seth and I unpack one of the most frustrating challenges parents face: lying. Drawing from our own experiences as both, believe it or not, former teens, and adults working with struggling young people, we explore why lying is such a normal human behavior, why taking it personally often makes things worse, and how the way you respond can either create more defensiveness or open the door to honesty.
Instead of focusing on catching your teen in a lie, we invite you to shift your attention to building the kind of relationship where accountability feels safe. Because while you can't force honesty, you can create the conditions that make it much more likely.
In this episode on answering the question ‘why does my teen lie?’, we discuss:
- Why your teen isn’t lying out of disrespect, but a much more sensible reason.
- How power struggles, lectures, and accusations can unintentionally encourage more lying.
- The difference between creating accountability and trying to force a confession.
- Practical ways to respond when you know, or strongly suspect, your teen isn't telling the truth.
- Why curiosity and emotional safety are far more effective than proving you're right.
- How changing your own responses can help build more trust and honesty over time.
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